Tiffani has been working in private practice as a Registered Clinical Counsellor for over a decade and co-runs Counselling On Main with Mark Choi, and owns and operates Noble Roots : Counselling and Yoga Therapy. After getting her start in 2005 working for a not-for-profit offering outreach support for marginalized youth and families, she received her Masters in Counselling Psychology (MA) from UBC . Tiffani has additional specialized education in Gestalt Therapy and Buddhist Psychology (GTTCNW).
She also specializes in trauma and is a Clinical Traumatologist (TITC-CT) and a Trauma Centered Trauma Sensitive Yoga Therapist (TCTSY-F, JRI, RYT 500). She is experienced in supporting parents with children of all ages and has specific training and credits in Mindful Self-Compassion, Emotion-Focused Family Therapy, Family Systems and Attachment theories. Tiffani incorporates all this knowledge and theory into her therapy approach.
Tiffani works with adult (18+) individuals, couples and family members (ie. adult sisters, mother or father/adult son or daughter).
Individual Counselling Approach
Every person has experiences unique to them that affect the course of their inner selves and trajectory of their life. Tiffani approaches each and every client experience with curiosity and significance, offering support to clients to discover what lies beneath their conscious awareness. She has been immersed in the theories of Gestalt therapy and Buddhist Psychology for many years and these approaches form the foundation of her therapeutic practice and support the experiential exploration of client experience. In addition to attending to the client’s presenting concern, the greater goal of therapy is to gain increased self-awareness, and Tiffani facilitates this through guiding clients to “be with what is” (thoughts, feelings, sensations). In accessing “what is” moment-to-moment, deeper contact can be made with the inner self. Clients may also make connections to past experiences that offer insight about their current state and experience of self. Gradually, the subconscious is made conscious. Thus, unhelpful patterns of behaving toward self and in relationships can be identified and shifted, mental health issues can be clarified and addressed, sustainable coping strategies can be implemented, confidence and agency can be cultivated. The knowing that comes from this therapeutic experience can guide clients to make choices in their lives that are more congruent and authentic to them and therefore lead to more satisfying and fulfilling lives.
Couple Counselling Approach
Tiffani’s approach to relationship counselling is a compilation of theories and Collaborative Couple Therapy forms the foundation. Collaborative Couple Therapy is an adjacent approach to Gestalt Therapy and is a natural fit to her work. She integrates research and theories of the Gottman Method and Emotion-Focused Couple Therapy & Attachment, as well as Neuroscience, Mindfulness, and Embodied Relational Sex Therapy. The integration of these methods foster the deepening of couples' awarenesses and insights into the interpersonal and intrapersonal processes that foster helpful/unhelpful patterns within their relating.
In couple work, there may be many micro goals, but in order to support the exploration, the process begins with the development and/or deepening of emotional safety. Research in neurobiology findings reflect that emotional safety is essential to a healthy, connected and loving relationship. "Emotional safety" means trusting that your loved one is looking out for your emotional well-being. This trust creates room for vulnerability, which is the gateway to a felt sense of connectedness. The process of developing emotional safety involves first an understanding in theory and practice of the ingredients involved - empathy, validation, presence, patience, self-awareness & self-regulation. With these abilities as the foundation, couples can explore and come to understand the others’ experience and what has led to their way of being. Couples can come to know how their earlier life experiences (including "attachment style") may be impacting their relating and communication. They can come to recognize internal and external cues (triggers in the body and in relationship to another) and learn to make different choices in their interactions. Couples can learn coping strategies to self-soothe when activated, and communication tactics that facilitate collaborative communication that is productive. Couples work toward understanding and acceptance of the other, rather than dismissing and accusing. It then becomes possible to zoom out and see the "big picture perspective", instead of getting caught in common cyclical traps (ie. attempts to convince the other that they are right and the other is wrong).
With the foundational tools to build emotional safety, an openness to be curious about the impact of one's history on their relating (to self and others), and an interest to experiment with vulnerability, couples can learn to navigate any minor to major conflicts with ease. In addition, this approach cultivates a sense of feeling seen, heard and validated not just when in conflict, but every moment of every day.
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Should you like to know more about how Tiffani might attend to your specific cause for seeking therapy, please call or email her directly to schedule a 15-minute complimentary consultation. Or to begin your journey of personal growth as soon as possible, book your appointment now.
If you are seeking virtual appointments, please book through her Noble Roots website as she only offers virtual appointments on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays from her Fort Langley location.